Waiting to Find out Baby’s Gender
I am currently pregnant with my second child and my partner and I have decided to wait until birth to find out the gender.
HOW CAN YOU WAIT?
We get this a lot.
But we just can’t think of anything more exciting then finding out if we have a new baby girl or boy then from the source itself on the day of!
I also am hoping the anticipation will give me more of a push while I’m… well, pushing.
On top of that being the biggest reason, there are several others as to why we are waiting. We already have two girls and feel a lot of ‘pressure’ to have a boy.
How can we feel pressure over something we can’t control?
Well….the first question I have gotten while telling friends and family I am pregnant is “are you hoping for a boy?” or “what are you going to do if it’s another girl?”
Of course we would love to have a boy after having two girls… But again, that is not our decision. It also makes me feel like the baby will be less special if it is a girl because the hopes are so high for a boy.
I want to enjoy my pregnancy and focus on the baby as a new LIFE into our lives, not a BOY or a GIRL.
As a society, why are we so fixated on gender?
I know one answer for sure. Because it is profitable! We are 10 weeks to due date and have maybe 3 outfits for the baby and that is mostly due to the fact it is very hard to find gender neutral clothing. Everything is either pink with bows or dark colors with dinosaurs. There isn’t much in between. A family who has a boy first and then a girl after will find that there aren’t too many clothing items that can be passed on to the girl.
& I totally get it, I am an example of a girly girl and I love dressing up my girls with fun skirts and makeup! I am not saying it is a bad thing, but the experience of waiting to find out the gender has completely opened my eyes to how different we treat boys compared to girls and vice versa.
Another slightly irritating problem we have run into is NAMES!
Because we cannot just narrow it down to boy names or to girl names I feel overwhelmed with the amount of options we have. We have tried to pick one of those gender neutral names so it can be used no matter the outcome, but none of them have been appealing so far.
We were also inspired by my parents who waited and said it made the birth very special. I’ve also connected with several other couples who have waited and said that it was absolutely worth it.
Every family is going to have a different reason for waiting. It should be looked at as a fun decision and understandably something not everyone wants to do.
I have been trying to find some cute clothing options for parents who are also choosing to wait and have created an amazon list filled with fun choices. I’ll leave the link down below in case you would like to check them out!
Gender Neural Baby Clothes Link: Here
